What a great post, Carolyn! My experience with clothing aligns with yours! Modesty doesn’t protect you. But it can keep you from embracing and expressing yourself.
Thanks for reading @Lisa Cooper Ellison! You put this so well: “Modesty doesn’t protect you. But it can keep you from embracing and expressing yourself.” Thanks for sharing!
im impressed about you and running in stilettos !! you earned it with all you ballerina work but still! i have to wear boots or boxing shoes at all times (or my training slippers)
this is so timely for me. for some years i've just worn my yifu and battle hair all day everyday. including to be fight ready. and intimidating
i now long for beauty and self expression and i realize i've been sacrificing that to fear.
tysm for this inspiration !! kid you had drip frr! as does present day you !!
i also experience classism from my clothing choices - i wear black joggers, a black mma tank and cornrows —
once at the park i was reading at a bench and group of tans activists surrounded me with their banners bc they looked at me and assumed i was there to counter protest them LOL
i also keep a spread sheet of my fights . who what where when why - and what was i wearing. so for safety i wear different colored headscarf's and wraps when i go back to those blocks; to hide my identity. so some predator doesn't try to even the score card
i also advocate for martial artists - real ones - to carry a Get Home Bag. you vanquished the bad guys. but some idiots called the cops on you —
so you have a grey hoody. red rimmed sunglasses. a pair of flats. you quickly change as you flee to ur home, taking side streets
tysm for another great piece to bless the girls and scrap the patriarchy 🌷🌷
ps its always so fun to see me mentioned in your amazing newsletter tysm! and thanks for inspiring my play! we are loving our book club for All The Light You Cannot See
this week i've been enjoying browsing stores for rugs, drapes, tapestry's and lamps for when i move!
i also grand prix wrestled my entire family from elderly to infant at easter LOL
@palooka - Thank you for this beautiful share! “I now long for beauty and self expression and I realize I’ve been sacrificing that to fear.” These words resonate with me so deeply! I, too, have been on a journey to step beyond my fear and reconnect with my beauty, inside and out. The kid me always knew how to move through the world in style. Now I’m taking lessons from her.
Thanks for sharing your experience of classism from your clothing choices. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that targeted aggression — especially when you were looking to cultivate a moment of peace reading in the park!
The way you track your clothes and pack a Get Home Bag sounds like really smart ways to stay safe. Thanks for sharing these with me.
Thanks, as always for reading! It’s always a gift to hear from you and to learn from your experiences. Thank you for sharing.
It warms my heart to hear that you’re loving your book club, enjoying creating a new, beautiful space for yourself, and Grand Prix wrestling your family at Easter 😂 What fun! I love getting to hear about the moments of play that bring you joy and help you stand in your power. Thanks for sharing!
@Carolyn Fallert tysm for reading and such a lovely reply! there’s so few of us. we are a generational dispensation. see you get it - i was cultivating a moment of peace at the park! i thinks it’s a real privilege to share and grow with you and learn from you! and child you! 💃💃
Thank you for this! Clothing is such an essential part of our expression and our culture just twists it into this exploitative excuse to blame women for the actions of others. Also kiddos for running in heels! Your balance is eons stronger than mine🤣.
For me, I’m awaiting the July sunshine so I can get out this little purple, red, and pink sundress. It’s simple comfortable, easy to skip around in on the beach, and it’s just something that makes me feel like sunshine ☀️ ❤️
What a great post, Carolyn! My experience with clothing aligns with yours! Modesty doesn’t protect you. But it can keep you from embracing and expressing yourself.
Thanks for reading @Lisa Cooper Ellison! You put this so well: “Modesty doesn’t protect you. But it can keep you from embracing and expressing yourself.” Thanks for sharing!
ty ty ty for this piece! so true @Carolyn Fallert
im impressed about you and running in stilettos !! you earned it with all you ballerina work but still! i have to wear boots or boxing shoes at all times (or my training slippers)
this is so timely for me. for some years i've just worn my yifu and battle hair all day everyday. including to be fight ready. and intimidating
i now long for beauty and self expression and i realize i've been sacrificing that to fear.
tysm for this inspiration !! kid you had drip frr! as does present day you !!
i also experience classism from my clothing choices - i wear black joggers, a black mma tank and cornrows —
once at the park i was reading at a bench and group of tans activists surrounded me with their banners bc they looked at me and assumed i was there to counter protest them LOL
i also keep a spread sheet of my fights . who what where when why - and what was i wearing. so for safety i wear different colored headscarf's and wraps when i go back to those blocks; to hide my identity. so some predator doesn't try to even the score card
i also advocate for martial artists - real ones - to carry a Get Home Bag. you vanquished the bad guys. but some idiots called the cops on you —
so you have a grey hoody. red rimmed sunglasses. a pair of flats. you quickly change as you flee to ur home, taking side streets
tysm for another great piece to bless the girls and scrap the patriarchy 🌷🌷
ps its always so fun to see me mentioned in your amazing newsletter tysm! and thanks for inspiring my play! we are loving our book club for All The Light You Cannot See
this week i've been enjoying browsing stores for rugs, drapes, tapestry's and lamps for when i move!
i also grand prix wrestled my entire family from elderly to infant at easter LOL
@palooka - Thank you for this beautiful share! “I now long for beauty and self expression and I realize I’ve been sacrificing that to fear.” These words resonate with me so deeply! I, too, have been on a journey to step beyond my fear and reconnect with my beauty, inside and out. The kid me always knew how to move through the world in style. Now I’m taking lessons from her.
Thanks for sharing your experience of classism from your clothing choices. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that targeted aggression — especially when you were looking to cultivate a moment of peace reading in the park!
The way you track your clothes and pack a Get Home Bag sounds like really smart ways to stay safe. Thanks for sharing these with me.
Thanks, as always for reading! It’s always a gift to hear from you and to learn from your experiences. Thank you for sharing.
It warms my heart to hear that you’re loving your book club, enjoying creating a new, beautiful space for yourself, and Grand Prix wrestling your family at Easter 😂 What fun! I love getting to hear about the moments of play that bring you joy and help you stand in your power. Thanks for sharing!
@Carolyn Fallert tysm for reading and such a lovely reply! there’s so few of us. we are a generational dispensation. see you get it - i was cultivating a moment of peace at the park! i thinks it’s a real privilege to share and grow with you and learn from you! and child you! 💃💃
tysm ✨✨
Thank you for this! Clothing is such an essential part of our expression and our culture just twists it into this exploitative excuse to blame women for the actions of others. Also kiddos for running in heels! Your balance is eons stronger than mine🤣.
For me, I’m awaiting the July sunshine so I can get out this little purple, red, and pink sundress. It’s simple comfortable, easy to skip around in on the beach, and it’s just something that makes me feel like sunshine ☀️ ❤️
I love this! Thank you.